I can do this was my daily saying. We all have a story we can tell, if we wish to bring to light our own personal turning point. I am sharing mine in the hope that it will be inspirational to any one else facing a hurdle that may seem insurmountable. Create a goal to aim for and give yourself that sense of direction, which we so often lose sight of. The culmination of my tale was having surgery in Thailand with Destination Beauty, to rid my body of the huge unsightly flabby folds of skin that were once upon a time, bloated out with fat. CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR BROCHURE
I couldn’t look in a mirror, I struggled to walk my daughter to kindy just down the road from where we lived. I was more than just, a “big” lady, with the need to shower frequently due to the rolling fat on my body, that had a sweat life of its own. I was becoming more reclusive, smoking too much despite having asthma, and caring too little about my home. The clothes I could wear were virtually non-existent, despite having a wardrobe full of them. Throw in my then unhappy relationship and depression swiftly followed. I felt trapped in a body that I could not comprehend as being mine, due to my binge eating. I had always been a largish child. I would love to blame my size on family genetics, and the comfort food that we all seek as a child and was dished out so lavishly by a mother that can cook. But, it was this very lacking in love for myself, that drove me to eat and eat, which had lead to my obesity.
I started “point” counting of the food that I ate, courtesy of joining Weight Watchers, determination and my mantra of “I can do this”, being my bible. At the time I weighed about 138 kilos, miserable with no confidence whatsoever. My goal was to become 80 kilos. Nothing and no one was going to deter me from reaching this. For as long as I can remember, my weight has always been determined by my “yo yo” dieting. I joined weight watchers the first time prior to my 21st, to slim down for the event. At that point I weighed 112 kilos. After losing a good 20 kilos, I became cocky and believed that I could keep it off by myself, so I stopped going. Then in my early thirties and one beautiful daughter later, I had more than ballooned out, yet again. I went back to Weight Watchers to regain control of my life, which I had lost in a downward spiral of self-loathing at every mouthful I swallowed. Finally after 3 hard years I surpassed my goal weight, weighing in at 79 kgs just before my 31st birthday. CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR BROCHURE
Having reached my goal weight naturally, I was now confronted with the remnants of my “fat” body; skin, masses of skin, hanging like folds of heavy curtains still obliterated the person I wished to be. Despite hiding the skinnier me by tucking rolls of skin into my clothes, my head was telling me that I might as well have stayed fat, if this is what I was left with. My embarrassment at being naked or in my unflattering granny nickers in front of my then new partner, could not dispel my depressive thoughts. He would always assure me that he loved the person within and not what was on the outside. But, those ugly gut rolls prevented me from celebrating the weight loss I had worked so hard to achieve. Cosmetic Surgery beckoned me as the only way to obliterate what the mirror reflected each and every morning.
Having sought further advice from family friends and doctors I maintained my weight 1 year, actually weighing in at 76 kgs to prepare myself mentally and physically for the journey I was about to face.
The cost factor was a huge hurdle, which I had to overcome, as I was a single mother. Thank goodness I had formidable self discipline where budgeting is concerned and access to a low cost loan, that I inevitably needed to take advantage of. On advice from my local doctor, I went down the road of seeking government assistance, but after a tense six months of waiting, I was disappointed to learn that I did not qualify (due to not having serious medical conditions). The cost in New Zealand was far too expensive for the surgery I required to be done. I then spoke to a couple of friends who had undergone breast augmentation surgery in Thailand. Finally I had the luck of being able to talk to a lady that had undergone almost the same surgery as I wanted to have, and she had undergone the surgery in Thailand as well. To her I owe a debt of gratitude, as despite being a very private person, she shared the story of her surgical journey with me. So armed with precious tips and hints, and knowing the consequences and the extent of surgery I would require, I forged ahead with my plans.
I chose Destination Beauty, after consulting with another agency in Thailand, for two reasons. Because of the amount of surgery I required, a circumferential tummy tuck and a thigh lift on each leg, I wanted to be able to do it in one visit and the cost was a very important factor. The other agency that my friend had used would not do it in one trip, and their cost was far more than that of Destination Beauty. CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR BROCHURE
I had never traveled overseas, except to Australia, so the fact that I was going to go to Thailand for my surgery, was a bit daunting. I eventually coerced my mother who lives in Perth to come with me, despite her reluctance and her not understanding the need for me to have the surgery done. I have had surgery before, a cesarean when having my daughter, so it was not the thought of needles or the hospital environment that was putting me on edge. I think it was the realization that finally I was on the cusp of realizing a three year personal goal.
I could see my toes! I opened my eyes and having no pain, in my post operation anesthesia fog, I began to complain to my mother that they hadn’t done the surgery. In that same instance, I glanced down. Despite the mummy like wrapping around my stomach, I could see all of my lower body and then my toes proudly pointing towards the heavens. This was a sight that had eluded me for years because of my enormous flab rolls. I welcomed my toes back into my life with a huge grin of satisfaction and remember smugly adoring my now bandaged, but totally flat stomach. Literally, bags and bags of skin and fat had been removed.
In total I spent four nights in hospital. The first operation I had, under the skillful hands of my Destination Beauty Board Certified Surgeon, was the front section of my circumferential tummy tuck with liposuction of my upper abdominals, hips and flanks. I stayed two nights in the Hospital, Bangkok and then two days recovering in the hotel, before I returned to the hospital for the second round of cosmetic surgery. The second surgery consisted of a thigh lift with liposuction on the inner and outer areas of my thighs, plus completion of the back area of my circumferential tummy tuck. Having my mother with me for the duration was a blessing. She helped with the small things like helping me to shower and kept me company during the recovery periods. Mum even held up the bags of fat and skin that had been removed from my body, like they were prized possessions, as I actually took photographs of them.
The only time that the pain set in was on the long flight home of 13 hours via Sydney to New Zealand. Despite the compression bandages, my body swelled up.
My friends and partner met me at the airport and by then I was in quite a bit of agony.
This slowly dissipated over the next few days. I had my partner and friends more than willing to help me and support me during those first few weeks at home.
Destination Beauty, had woven their magic with professionalism, expertise and caring natures. After chatting to other patients recovering from various surgeries, my mother at long last understood my need to take the big step of surgery in Thailand. Being a large woman, she is happy within herself, whereas I could never come to terms with my size. And then once I had lost the weight, I could not come to terms with the disgusting remnants of that fat body still clinging to my now much smaller frame.
G-string sexy knickers have now replaced my granny bloomers and I can look in a mirror and grin, instead of being repulsed by my body. I have a new sense of self-confidence, which befits my work as a People Customer Service Officer. When once upon a time I hid in an office answering telephones, I can now face the world with a beaming smile.
In the near future I would like to have surgery on my arms and breast (I am thinking to do a breast lift). When I do, I will definitely be running back to the care of Destination Beauty, Thailand.
Plastic Surgery Procedures: Circumferential tummy tuck, thigh lift and liposuction 5 areas
Costs of surgery: THB 579,000 or approx NZD 21500 / AUD 19500